Question: Are there any subjects that should not be discussed
in a house of mourning?
Answer: Actually, halakha forbids a person who visits a house of
mourning from starting up any conversation at all; he/she must wait for one
of the mourners to speak first. Many times I have visited a house of
mourning and have sat without saying a word, because the mourners did not
speak. If I feel, as a Rabbi, that there is some halakhic or personal issue
that I must mention, then I do so, but in general it is important, when
performing the mitzvah of 'nihum avelim', to let the mourners set the tone.